TDAS Case Study: Lisa's story

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I don’t want other women my age to keep going through what I’ve gone through. There is help out there and it’s vital people feel confident to make use of it.

Lisa*

Lisa*, 25, sought help through Sanctuary Supported Living’s Torbay Refuge with her son after moving house six times to escape an abusive ex-partner.

While together, her partner was given a three-year jail term in 2007 for physically abusing her, as well as a non-molestation order designed to prevent him from pursuing her and their child.

Once released from prison however, he continued to pursue Lisa and son Jacob*, now seven, from new home to new home, eventually forcing her to move across counties to avoid him.

“There are still times when I think that I can see him, but it’s actually someone else,” she said.

“I’ve got support from staff and I’ve met people here. I shut myself away for years and it was like it never happened. It’s only been the past year I’ve become headstrong. I always felt guilty and like I was a bad mum, but now I’ve come to realise I’m a good mum.”

Although Lisa’s partner was convicted on charges relating to physical violence, she also experienced the full range of domestic abuse while still living with him, which also includes mental, sexual and financial abuse.

As one of the younger survivors of domestic abuse, Lisa wants other young women to become aware that there is help available.

She said: “I don’t want other women my age to keep going through what I’ve gone through. There is help out there and it’s vital people feel confident to make use of it.

“Domestic abuse is never something that is the fault of the person being abused.”

* All names have been changed

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